Saturday, April 27, 2013

Saying “Yes” to Adoption

(I wrote this as an article for my father-in-law's newsletter but since it is on adoption, I wanted to share it here as well.) 

When I was just a little girl, a Korean children’s choir come to our church and gave a concert.   I wasn’t very old at the time, but I have a vivid memory of the children standing up in the front of our church, singing.  What really impacted me about this choir was not that they were Korean, and it was not that they were children, but that they were orphans.  Once I grasped the full meaning of what it meant to be an orphan and then absorbed the idea that these children had come to America in hope of finding a family, I was convinced that one of them should be mine.   She stood in the very front, a sweet little girl with jet black hair cut short.  She was about 4 or 5 years old in my estimation and standing still for the concert was quite a challenge for her.  I just knew by the looks of her that she should be mine.  After all, I had prayed for a little sister for all of my young years.  At that point in my life I was not particularly impressed with my two older brothers.  Now, here in front of me, stood a little girl who had no family.    I reminded the Lord as well as my parents that I was the one who had desperately prayed for a sister.    Although I did not sway my parents in the least despite my many cries and pleas, something was deposited deep in my heart that day.  Every child needs a family.  It seemed so terribly wrong from my little girl perspective that we, who were a family, could not welcome the one who had none.

The word of God declares in James 1:27 that the very heart and nature of religion that is “pure and faultless” is to care for widows and orphans in their distress, and to keep oneself unspotted from the world.  God’s entire redemption plan is centered on the story of a loving Father who has come to rescue orphan children and adopt them into His family.  The price He was willing to pay for such an endeavor was nothing short of extravagant and it takes my breath away.  Why would He not ask us, as His children, to also love the weak and oppressed in such a way that it mirrors the very heart of His redemption plan?

Without Jesus, we are all orphans in some way, searching for the unconditional love of a family, the love of a father and a mother.   Sometimes we find a measure of that love in the embrace of our parents, or the comforting arms of a spouse, or perhaps in the dependent love of our children.  Yet the world is filled with countless people who have never known a love that truly fills their souls.   Jesus said, “If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in them.”  (1 John 2:15b)  The reality is that when humanity loves the world and the things of this world with such a resolute passion, it is a resounding testimony to the fact that the love of the Father is not in them.   When we truly know the love of our Father in heaven, the things of this world “grow strangely dim in the light of His glory and grace.”  He is the only one who is truly able to fill us and satisfy our hearts at the very core of our being. 

For years I have prayed James 1:27, asking God to give me “pure and faultless religion,” both in my own life and in His church.  I never really thought too much about what it would look like if God answered that prayer, I just simply prayed it.  Several years ago our family found our paths crossing and our lives intersecting with multiple families with adopted children.   At first it seemed just coincidental.  Then each of our 5 children became close friends with adopted children and with the siblings of adopted children.  For a season, we could not go to the store, out to eat, or to the park without seeing adoptive families.  Suddenly they were everywhere.  They came to our door, they came to our church, they seemed to follow us wherever we went, and their lives shouted to us something we had never before considered.  Every child needs a family.  How could we, who are a family, not welcome the one who has none?   “This is pure and faultless religion, to care for widows and orphans in their distress.”  Suddenly, as if a light was turned on in a darkened room, we understood.  We were being invited to participate in the Gospel of Redemption at a whole new level.  We responded with a resounding “yes” to God’s amazing invitation.  We said “yes” to adoption!  “And whoever welcomes one such child in my name, welcomes me.” (Matt. 18:5)

Tuesday, April 9, 2013

Adoption Fundraiser....and Oh HAPPY DAY!

Oh happy day!  We just found out from Rick's employer that they have upped their adoption assistance to $8000 reimbursement!  Woot!  This is SUCH GOOD NEWS!  Bit by bit, little by little, the Lord is adding funds to our adoption endeavor.  Mind you, we are praying He will soon add a BABY, but in the meantime, we are grateful for the added provision!  He is so good! 

We are starting a new fundraiser. I drew this picture of my dear friend's little girl Zoe, who was adopted from Ethiopia.  I showed it to Zoe's big brother (he is her bio sibling and Solomon's best friend) and asked him who it was. He said, "That's Zoe...but who's the other person?"  I thought fast and said, "Well...it's your mom!"  He answered me, "REALLY?  She DOES NOT have a bathrobe that color!"  LOL!

We are excited about how well these turned out.  I had them printed through Vistaprint (using their 1/2 off online coupon).  They are very nice quality--thick cards with a mat finish.  On the inside (small and in grayscale at the bottom) we had Psalm 68:6 printed:  "He places the lonely in families..."  We have already sold 60 packs!  If they all sell, we will reprint.  I also have another drawing of a little orphan girl that we may print up as well.

If you are interested in making a donation and getting some cards in return, we are asking a minimum $10 donation for a pack of 10 cards and 10 envelopes.  We have not ventured out to the post office to figure out postage costs, but if you need them mailed to you, that would be extra or it would cease to be a fundRAISER.  :-) We can figure that out if you are interested.  I'm guessing it wouldn't be more than a few dollars, maybe less?  Email us at fergusfarm2565 (at) gmail if you would like a pack!



God places the lonely in families...Psalm 68:6

Sunday, December 9, 2012

Click, Click, Click....Then Wait!

 


I never knew it would be like this!


I was musing the other day on how much this adoption journey is like going to 6 Flags Grand Adventure and getting on the biggest rollercoaster.  From the ground it looks like a nearly impossible ride.  Way too high, way too risky, way too....frightening?  Or maybe just way too emotional.  Definitely way too expensive!


I remember how it was when I was a junior high youth leader during my final year of college.  One of my main jobs, next to serving and eating pizza, was to take 30 junior high kids to 6 Flags Magic Mountain, Knotts Berry Farm, and Disneyland.  It was not too tough of a job...most of the time. However, I once found myself in the line of one of the highest roller coaster rides...the kind of ride that takes you up to a very high place and then drops you.  At the end of the ride they lay you on your back facing straight up.  It was one of the times when I wished I could be anywhere else besides where I happened to be.  The last thing I wanted to do was to go on that ride!  Surrounded by a bunch of squirrely junior highers, I jokingly (but in all seriousness!) cried out loud to the God who could save me.  When it was my turn to get on the ride, the employee in charge of the ride grabbed his microphone and apologized that they were shutting it down for maintenance.  Whew! 

I am thinking that adoption can be like that ride.  Click...click...click!  There is much effort to get up the hills in this journey.  Homestudy....filling out forms....more paperwork...filling out grant applications....fundraising.....click, click, click.  There is a point in the process where you reach a peak.  Everytime your profile is presented, it is like a peak in a rollercoaster.  You sit at the top and realize, "Wow, this could be it..." and then you sit and wait.  Sometimes they announce over the loudspeaker, "We apologize, but you need to get off right now, this ride is being closed for maintenance." You climbed to the top only to get off and start the ride all over again.  After climbing to the top and getting off, believe me, your heart NEEDS some MAINTENANCE!

One day, I truly believe we will be climbing up that roller coaster once again....click, click, click....and we will reach the top...again.  Then we'll sit and wait.  We'll scan the horizen and see the amazing view.  We'll realize how very high up we really are.  Then, all of the sudden something will give.  Whosh!  There WILL BE a day when we feel the track give way and instead of hearing clicks, we will grab ahold of the sides and hold on for all we are worth.   I have heard from those who have been to the top and finished the ride that it truly is wild ride!  Just like that ride I avoided in my days as a youth leader, I know the ride will lay me on my back and cause me to look straight up. I know I will be looking nowhere else. 

"This I declare about the LORD: He alone is my refuge, my place of safety; he is my God, and I trust him."   Pslam 92:1

Sunday, November 11, 2012

Packing Patience

This time last year, I had a suitcase spread out in my living room and a list that I carefully followed to help me pack it.  I was headed to Mozambique and I had no idea what to expect.  Our weight limit was fifty pounds and not an ounce over.  A tent. Mosquito netting.  A headlamp.  Nail polish for the girls.  Toothbrushes and new undies for the kids.  Balloons.  Beef jerky.  An inflatible pillow. Starbucks coffee?  (It was on the list) Malaria pills.  Check. Check.  Double check.   

Sometimes I think that if we viewed life a little differently, we'd be more careful how we pack for the journey.  We'd check.  Check.  And double check. 

Our adoption journey has been one that I haven't known how to pack for.  There was no list given when we started.  There's the list for the trip to the hospital, but that is not the trip that I am talking about.  It's this heart-journey that I have not known how to pack for.   I sometimes want to leave my heart at home, and other times, I check and realize it has already gone on ahead.  It feels so vunlernable to know my heart is already fully given for someone I have not yet met.  And I cannot get it back.  Then there are the days when I look in my suitcase for an extra measure of faith, realizing I didn't know how much I'd need it.  I wish someone would have told me I would need more than I believed.  Maybe I would have packed much, much more.

Today I checked and realized that hope was needed.  I lost track of it earlier this week and my heart was aching.  Hope is a funny thing.  Faith is the assurance of things hoped for...but when you lose hope it can really mess things up.  "For who hopes for what he sees? But if we hope for what we do not see, we wait for it with patience."  (Romans 8:25)  And that is the key.  Hope is invisible!   It's a little harder to keep track of because you just can't see it.  Adoption is so like that.  Waiting.  For something.  You don't know when.  You don't know who.  You don't know where.  You feel pregnant.  But you don't look it.  There is no due date.  It's invisible.  It's a HOPE date.  An invisible platform on which adoption sits. 

WE WAIT FOR IT WITH PATIENCE.  Patience.  Check.  Check.  Double check.  Patience. 

Saturday, October 6, 2012

God, please Grant us more GRANTS!

Fall has hit our neck of the woods in a big way this week.  The fall colors are AMAZING!  But the beautiful Indian Summer weather we had at the beginning of the week has fast given way to BRRRRR....a 40 degree drop.  It feels like winter now.  Even though it's only 40 degrees outside (not 25 yet!), when you go from 80 to 40 so quickly, it is a bit shocking to the system.  And all those lovely leaves are blowing fiercly in the wind.  Most of them have blown to the ground.  To the delight of my resident leaf rakers, the enormous pile that was in our front yard at the beginning of this week, have now blown away.  Some poor neighbors down the street will have to rake them up instead of my kids.  So sorry, neighbors!

If only money could fall like leaves from the trees and land in our yard!  My dad used to always say, "money doesn't grow on trees..." but it sure would be nice if it did sometimes.  One thing I never thought about as we began our adoption journey is how much FAITH it would require of us.  There are probably a LOT of things we didn't think about when we said, "yes" to adoption, but needing to grow in FAITH is one thing that simply did not occur to me. 

Money is one of those things that is generally needed in any grand adventure where God is involved.  Not always needed, but frequently.  Yet the aquiring of funds is sometimes akin to the multiplication of loaves and fishes.  I've never personally prayed over my lunch and turned around and fed it to 5000 people, but I do know God is able to multiply even my most limited resouce.  I've just never had my faith in His ablility to provide a lot of money tested quite like this. 

There are ministries "out there" that actually make it their business to give people (like us) MONEY.  Free money.  They make it their goal and their business to give grant money to people who are doing the very thing that God has put on their hearts....adopting....orphans....children that God wants to defend.  We have been busily applying for as many grants as we can find, at least all those that we qualify for.  Some are simply GRANTS.  They send money to our adoption agency once our baby is in our arms.  Others are MATCHING GRANTS.  They will send matching funds to our adoption agency on our behalf depending on how much money as we can RAISE up to a certain amount.

So THANK YOU to everyone who has helped us so far with the MICAH FUND!!  We are on our way to meeting our goal!  HURRAY!  So now, will you continue to pray with us that God will GRANT US MORE GRANTS????  We have applied for a $3500 grant, another $2500 matching grant, and several others that could be anywhere between $300 and ??  Free money.  Thank you, Jesus, for every way that you provide and every generous person that you use to do it though!   

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

MICAH Fund

In case we forgot to put you on our mailing list--


Dear Family and Friends,          

     Over the past several years we have found ourselves approaching a new bend in the road ahead that we had not anticipated.  Our commitment to follow Jesus seems to always lead us to unexpected surprises and blessings when we follow where He leads!  Recently, we have felt strongly that He is calling us to adopt a baby.  We know that God cares deeply about the needs of widows and orphans (James 1:27) and we know that He sets the lonely in families (Psalm 68:6).  There are many minority babies born in our nation with very few families waiting to adopt them.  We believe God has a marvelous blessing awaiting our family, and at the same time, He desires to give our family to a precious little one who needs our love.  Can you believe it?  What will we do next?  We have completed our home study and are now officially waiting for God to orchestrate our adoption.   Our profile will soon be made available to be viewed by birth mothers and we could become parents again at any time!

     This is a huge leap of faith for us and we are writing to ask for the support of our friends and family emotionally, prayerfully, and if God leads, financially.  We ask for your prayers as we go through the sometimes tumultuous road toward adoption.  Please pray for the health and safety of the child God has planned for us and also for the health and safety of the child’s birthmother.  Pray that our relationship with our child’s birthmother will be full of grace and that we will love her well.  She will have made a very courageous decision to carry her baby to birth.  Placing that baby in our arms will take an equal amount of strength and courage. 

     We have already raised about $5000 to cover the cost of our home study and the other services needed to bring us to this point of our journey.  The high COST of adoption is often the main obstacle that stands in the way of hopeful families.  Our adoption will cost between $25,000 and $30,000, possibly even more.  We will most likely spend about $5000 in additional funds for travel and lodging in our baby’s birth state before we can bring our baby home.  There will be legal fees and possible medical fees for the baby’s mother.  We are continuing to explore every avenue we know of to raise this money.  Every penny will be worth it!  We know this is a large sum of money, but we trust God has a plan to help us fund our adoption. 

     The Minority Infant and Child Adoption Help (MICAH) Fund is a registered 501(3)(c) non profit organization incorporated in the state of Minnesota, whose mission is to glorify God by helping to make possible the placement of African American and biracial infants/children into loving, Christian homes. They will match, dollar for dollar, up to $2000, every gift that is received on our behalf! 

     If you feel led to support us financially in our pursuit of this adoption, your gift can be 100% tax deductible when made through the MICAH Fund.  The Fund has asked us to make clear to you that according to IRS regulations, gifts are not eligible to be tax deductible if legally controlled by the donor.  This means that once your gift has been received, you may not recall it or demand it be applied to the grant of your choice.  The MICAH Fund makes every effort to honor the suggestions of these gifts, and would be happy to discuss these issues with you further if you wish.  The MICAH Fund number is 651-636-5255.  They can also be located at www.micahfund.org 

     Because all donations to the fund are paid directly to adoption agencies, and the MICAH Fund will not give grants directly to individuals, gifts must be received before the placement of our child (ASAP).  Any gifts received after this date would be placed into the general adoption grant fund. 

     Gifts in the form of checks may be sent to MICAH Fund, attn: Dave Feldner,  2112 NE Broadway Street, Minneapolis, MN  55413.  Donations may also be made online at www.micahfund.org  The MICAH Fund is unable to accept telephone credit card donations. 

     Thank you so much for taking time to read this letter!  Please PRAY for us in this journey even if you do not feel called to partner with us financially. We are so excited for what God has in store and for the baby He has chosen for us! 

Thank you!! 
Rick, Sylvia, Ben, Olivia, Bethany, Sarah, and Solomon






September 17, 2012 
Dear church, family, and friends of Rick and Sylvia,

The MICAH Fund (www.micahfund.org) is a non profit organization whose mission is to glorify God by helping to make possible the placement of African American and biracial infants and children into loving, Christian homes.  The MICAH Fund is a registered 501(3)(c) organization registered in the state of Minnesota.  The MICAH Fund is dedicated to help meet the financial needs of Christian families seeking to obey God’s call to “visit the fatherless…in their affliction” (James 1:27).

We believe adoption at its core is evangelism – a vital part of bringing the mission field home.  God desires children to be adopted into Christ-honoring families so they may be ultimately adopted into His eternal family through Jesus Christ.  God calls us to fulfill James 1:27.

Rick and Sylvia have sensed God’s call and have joyfully stepped out in faith and obedience to walk the journey of adoption.  As you may already know, adoption is expensive, can cost up to $25,000 (or more), and this prevents many families from adopting.  The MICAH Fund believes God has raised up Rick and Sylvia “for such a time as this,” and we have committed to an adoption matching grant of $2,000 to help raise the funds necessary for this adoption.  This means the MICAH Fund will match dollar for dollar what Rick and Sylvia raise from their church, family, and friends between now and the placement of this child up to $2,000.  Gifts can be raised over and above this amount but will not be matched.  We invite you to support them financially to make this adoption possible.  Your gift is tax deductible and you will receive a tax deductible receipt. 

Will you invest financially in the life of the child God has for this family?  It will be an investment with eternal return.

Sincerely,
Maridel Sandberg
President of the MICAH Fund

P.S.  Receipts for your gift are sent out quarterly and then again at the end of year.  We appreciate your support.